The Twilight Cafe'

The Twilight Café began over 40 years ago, at a moment of profound personal crisis. I found myself on a bridge, contemplating ending my life while in a state of despair. This tragic story is all too common. However, a series of synchronicities brought me back from the brink and inspired me to become a psychologist, dedicated to helping others who were suffering.

Throughout my 33-year career as a psychologist, I have witnessed the alarming rise in suicide rates. Globally, a million people die by suicide each year, with over 13 million in the US seriously contemplating it annually. It is the second leading cause of death for those aged 10-14 and 20-34, and in the US alone, close to 2 million people attempt suicide each year. Every 11 minutes, someone in the US takes their own life. The Twilight Café is the third film in my trilogy on suicide, aimed at raising awareness and fostering discussion around this critical health crisis. We know that those who talk about their feelings with non-judgmental and compassionate listeners are much less likely to take their lives.

This short film is based on my full-length, award-winning stage play, Café Mezzo, which I wrote and performed in 15 years ago. Playing the role of Josh during its two-month run was incredibly cathartic. Our culture often glorifies the alpha male, to its own detriment. Alpha males who cannot show grief or express their emotions are much more likely to commit suicide due to their fear of vulnerability. Josh represents the opposite of an alpha male; he is what I call an omega male. The omega male, symbolized by the last letter of the Greek alphabet, embodies wisdom and depth of heart and soul gained through defeat, failure, and the ability to be vulnerable. As an old Native American saying goes, "The soul would have no rainbow, if the eyes had no tears." This, in essence, is what The Twilight Café is about.

Rhonda, on the other hand, embodies a different kind of feminine strength. She values substance, emotional truth, and depth of soul over appearances. Grounded and wise, she knows what truly matters, thanks to her difficult life and the teachings of her grandmother, Nonna Kaya. The character of Rhonda was inspired by my wife of 42 years and my deceased mother, who grew up in foster homes and lied about her age to secure her first job and was an extraordinary soul.
I hope the big heart and moving message of this film will help transform it into the feature film it is destined to become. Set in the extraordinary location of Dauphin Island, Alabama, these two unique souls have so much more of their journey left to discover! My goal is to contribute a bit more beauty, compassion, and wisdom to a world in desperate need of all three. As one of my dearest native teachers, Chief Bobby John Bearheart, taught me over and over again, “We must never stop dancing!”