On Grief, In Memory Of

On Grief, In Memory Of explores expectations of ‘grief’ by investigating the slow deterioration of a relationship between an alcoholic mother and her daughter. The film’s narrator, Lauren, describes growing anger and resentment towards her mother for prioritising alcohol and a new relationship over her. When Lauren watches her mother die, she feels nothing. She waits to feel the big emotions portrayed in films and described in books and songs, the emotions shown by people who loved and missed her mum, but they fail to surface. Lauren is left feeling alienated and inhuman. After looking through her family’s photo archive two-and-a-half years after her mother’s death, Lauren learns that her anger and resentment caused her to repress happy childhood memories. She comes to the realisation that she’d already mourned the death of the mother she once had and couldn’t grieve a woman she didn’t recognise. On Grief, In Memory Of offers an alternative perspective on ‘grief’ for those who’ve lost a loved one and felt nothing.

  • Lauren Ihanor Omokheoa
  • Lauren Ihanor Omokheoa
  • Lauren Ihanor Omokheoa
  • Lauren Ihanor Omokheoa
  • Lauren Ihanor Omokheoa
  • Project Type:
    Documentary, Short
  • Genres:
    Documentary, Short
  • Runtime:
    21 minutes 27 seconds
  • Completion Date:
    July 28, 2023
  • Production Budget:
    200 GBP
  • Country of Origin:
    United Kingdom
  • Country of Filming:
    United Kingdom
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Director Biography - Lauren Ihanor Omokheoa

Lauren Omokheoa is a Black British Director born in London to a Nigerian father and an English/Irish mother.

Lauren believes that an ability to genuinely connect with people and places is the essence of documentary filmmaking. Raised in a working-class household, Lauren has a keen interest in elevating unheard voices. Her ability to connect with a wide range of people is augmented by growing up in multicultural and socioeconomically diverse London, her broad education and her varied professional career.

She enjoys telling captivating stories through visually solid imagery inspired by different film genres and other performing/visual arts, whilst maintaining subjects' authenticity and their environments.

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Director Statement

I wanted to offer an alternative perspective on death and "grief." The perspective so often presented to us is one of heartbreak and sorrow, leading to high expectations—and to a degree, a performance—when a loved one passes away. What about those who feel nothing or very little? Are they monsters? Sociopathic? I felt compelled to tell my story to support those who feel the same and are perhaps searching for answers.