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Finding Love

A devoted man sacrifices everything to explore the limits of love and surrender with his creatively sadistic wife and her girlfriend, surrounded by a coven of female supremacist friends. Based on a true story by Renee Lane.

  • Viola Voltairine
    Director
    Other People's Mirrors, Profane
  • Amanda Graeff
    Key Cast
    "Renee"
    Patient Seven
  • Guinevere Turner
    Writer
    American Psycho, Notorious Bettie Page, Charlie Says, The L Word
  • Viola Strepsata Voltairine
    Producer
    Profane, Nice Bombs
  • Project Type:
    Feature
  • Runtime:
    1 hour 20 minutes
  • Completion Date:
    April 1, 2022
  • Production Budget:
    1,800,000 USD
  • Country of Origin:
    United States
  • Country of Filming:
    United States
  • Language:
    English
  • Shooting Format:
    4K
  • Aspect Ratio:
    16:9
  • Film Color:
    Color
  • First-time Filmmaker:
    No
  • Student Project:
    No
Director Biography - Viola Voltairine

Viola Strepsata Voltairine has participated in many illicit occupations to support her artistic habits, from being the program director of the Z Film Festival and festival director of the 72 Hour Feature Project in Chicago, to running a commercial BDSM studio/art space and later becoming a kink educator for in-person and on-line workshops.

Voltairine founded the production company Artvamp Films in 2000, and has since produced a number of award-winning feature films. These include the experimental narrative film Profane, which won Best Feature at the Boston Underground Film Festival and Best Film of the Year in the Underground Film Journal, as well as the Creative Capital award-winning documentary Nice Bombs, shot in Baghdad a few months after the beginning of U.S. occupation.

Her work has appeared on the Sundance Channel, and many of the films she has worked on have gotten international distribution and been shown in festivals and on television around the world. For her short films, she has received grants from the Princess Grace Foundation and the Film Society of Lincoln Center. She was given a full merit scholarship to the School of the Art Institute Chicago where she received her Master's degree in Film and Video. She recently wrote and published a philosophical manifesto titled 150 Years of Gynarchy. She lives in Colorado with her young daughter and her two submissive partners.

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Director Statement

The way in which BDSM and D/s relationships are portrayed in the mainstream is terribly skewed, inaccurate, and male-fantasy centered. The type of FemDoms usually portrayed are Pros, and though it’s important to see positive depictions of women in sex work, there is an entire culture of lifestyle FemDoms – women who Dominate men for pleasure rather than cash – that is virtually ignored. We are so invisible that we are often told that we don’t really exist. As someone who lives this lifestyle 24/7, I am the perfect person to direct this film. It is a part of who I am and not just some titilating diversion.

On top of that, Domination in film is typically shown in a comic context – women exerting power over men becomes a joke. It’s uncomfortable for some mainstream audiences, simply because they are not used to it. Dominant women and submissive men are hard pressed to find an accurate representation of ourselves on screen.

On the other hand, obviously abusive and non-consensual heteronormative relationships are held up as examples of D/s in stories like 50 Shades of Grey. While only a fantasy – and everyone is, of course, entitled to their fantasies – the fact that this is the go-to example of the BDSM lifestyle only reinforces the cultural norm of male power and control in an already male dominated society.

It’s important to note that often in movies where women are kinky and controlling they are viewed as somehow lost or broken. The struggle to be a commanding woman in our culture is romanticized as tragic. Though study after study show that people who practice BDSM are among the sanest and most well-adjusted, they’re viewed as damaged. What if we could change the trend and celebrate a woman who is unabashedly in command, and a man who loses himself completely under her heel?

Where are the powerful, erotic, moving stories of real Female Led D/s relationships? They are practically non-existent! By supporting this project you are supporting FemDoms and sub males in telling our own stories from our own perspectives.