everyone but us

Siblings Nico and Nele have come to Berlin to live together as a couple. When they reencounter Nico’s old school friend, Sasha, they fear Sasha might expose them. Sasha turns out to be unexpectedly tolerant and open-minded: “Love is love.” When Nele becomes unintentionally pregnant, their relationship is put to the test. While Nele wants to keep the baby and fulfill her wants and wishes of starting a family, Nico questions himself and his feelings fundamentally. The old friend and confidant remains an ever-present threat to the revelation of their secret. Love is love?

  • Diego Hauenstein
  • Diego Hauenstein
  • Dominik Wolfinger
  • Diego Hauenstein
  • Valerie Karbjinski
  • Peter Riedl
  • Lucas Riedle
    Key Cast
  • Barbara Dussler
    Key Cast
  • Mariananda Schempp
    Key Cast
  • Wolfgang Purkhauser
  • Antonia Möltgen
  • Nicole Durovic
    Hair and Makeup
  • Simon Schmalz
    Sound Mixer
  • Markus Kenel
  • Paul Powaljaew
    Re-Recording Mixer
  • Nicolas Balmer
  • Fabian Peitzsch
    VFX Supervision
  • Paul Sonntag
  • Simona Mele
    Set Design
  • Project Title (Original Language):
    nur wir nicht
  • Project Type:
    Short, Student
  • Runtime:
    29 minutes 59 seconds
  • Completion Date:
    July 31, 2023
  • Production Budget:
    30,000 USD
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    Yes - Filmakademie Baden-Württemberg
Director Biography - Diego Hauenstein

Diego Hauenstein was born in 1989 and is currently studying Fiction Directing at the Filmakademie Baden-Württemberg. Before his studies, he completed his Bachelor’s degree at the Zurich University of the Arts. Diego has an artistic family background: his father is a clown, and his mother ran off with the circus. Diego filmed his first film at 16 and has made over a dozen since. Whereas his feature-length debut, “I Should Have Held on to the Chandelier,” is a documentary, he focuses on developing fiction feature films.

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Director Statement

I stumbled upon the topic naively and unsuspectedly: I was amazed at what I found. After some research and a deeper examination of the subject matter, I concluded that consensual adult incest should not be classified as a crime (no matter subjective stances). Consensual adult incest is a victimless crime, so a ban is difficult to justify legally. Freedom and self-governance are central values of our society. Our film is not meant to shock or impose an opinion in this context. We want to tell a touching story, and the audience should grow fond of our characters––feel for and fear for them. It is a moral dilemma through which we aim to raise the question of tolerance in our society and initiate discussions around the topic.