Saint Singleton

Being Single in 2015 and beyond
In a couple-driven consumer marketing society, you're bound to come across people who wonder why you're single, as if the ultimate goal in life is to pair up with another human being and cling to that ideal as if your life depends on it. They might even imply that something is "wrong" with you if you're single. Brace yourself for that kind of ignorance. Remember that you don't have to defend your right for being single. I don’t know when being single became some sort of disease that everyone wants to get rid of? Why does everyone think that being in a relationship or married is superior to being alone? Those are some questions you might want to think about. Our culture places such an emphasis on being part of a couple that it makes single people feel like lepers sometimes. But I want to challenge you to reframe being alone. It's all about your attitude.

A yellow Porsche shifts gears as it winds through the Santa Fe Square. The phone is continuously chiming alerts of provocative images and sexually suggestive messages. The driver smirks as the car comes to a stop.

Being single doesn't have to mean being lonely. When you're single, you have more time to do a variety of things, all of which are opportunities to forge new friendships. Even if you're an introvert, this can be an excellent time to nurture your extroverted side. But social butterflies can grapple with loneliness too. Make it a priority in your life to create meaningful friendships and enrich your existing ones.

Classic relationship advice dictates that compromise, sacrifice are essential to a healthy relationship. Perhaps if you’ve been in a relationship before, you realize how much stuff you had to give up in order to make that relationship work. Or maybe you forgot about that stuff, because you’re focused on the things you miss. Well, this is a good time to shift that focus. If you’re a slob, isn’t it great to be able to leave your stuff laying around, without anybody minding? If you’re a neat freak, isn’t it wonderful to be able to organize everything, and find it the way you left it? Isn’t it nice to be able to cook and eat and enjoy foods that a partner might be averse to? Isn’t it cool to be able to go out spontaneously, without wondering whether your partner can or should be invited? A relationship can add many good things to your life, but it also adds some rigidity, so take the time to appreciate your current flexibility.

Sylvester “Sly” Singleton steps out. A handsome, 30 year old entrepreneur, dating guru and proprietor of Santa Fe's hottest singles bar, Saint Singleton's. The energy downtown is electric. Tonight marks the beginning of a concert series, that if all goes well, the bar will continue to host. The V.I.P. section is packed with celebrities. The dance floor and bars are filled with sexy singles all looking for the magic that Saint Singleton's offers.

“Sly”, as he is called by close friends maintains a calm resolve in most situations. Sly provides helpful tips for singles in the 21 century, with the use of his website and blog, wittingly named “Saint Singleton”.Tonight his wisdom will be challenged. There's this one special woman, that if all goes well, will be the apex of his personal achievements. For a man with charisma and charm, it sounds easy enough, except for the numerous admirers, that attempt to ravage him on sight.

When it comes to getting hitched, more Americans than ever before are saying “I don’t.” Singles now make up nearly half the adult population in this country, and new research suggests they’re happier, more social, and more active in the community than many of their wedded counterparts. In fact, your single years can be some of the most productive and liberating times of your life. But the way some people reluctantly wear their single status, you’d swear it was something to be escaped and avoided at all costs. Being single used to mean nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with. Therefore, being single is a "lifestyle choice" and not a "default option." It is possible to CHOOSE to be single.

The staff at Saint Singleton's is an eccentric crew, managed by Kitt, the bombshell hostess, Roxy, everyone's favorite bartender and Roberto, the young studly bar back.For Sly to succeed, he'll require the aid of his close friends and employees, to run interference, to keep the lustties at bay, to ensure guest comfort and make some lucky man or woman's fantasy come true.

Therefore, being single is a "lifestyle choice" and not a "default option." It is possible to CHOOSE to be single. There are advantages to being single just as there are disadvantages to being married, such as loss of personal freedom, having to compromise, etc. Conversely, there are advantages to being single, as well as disadvantages. Whether one is married or single is nothing more than a lifestyle choice.